Fun Business Fun Money Podcast

EPISODE 113 – What to do when you don’t know what to do

Nobody expects you to have all the answers all the time. 

Even if you’ve got your big plans for the year all mapped out, its easy to feel stuck and not know what to do.

But you don’t have to STAY stuck! You don’t have to stay on the struggle bus. Theres a much smoother, more fun ride available anytime you want.

In this coaching episode I’ve got 3 simple ways you can reset yourself and see the bigger picture, so you can then TAKE ACTION.

TRANSCRIPT

Hey there, and welcome back to the Fun Business Fun Money podcast! I’m your host, Deirdre Amies.

Full disclosure – I was honestly stuck for what to share with you in this episode, right up until just a few hours before I hit record.

Yes I have a big bank of ideas to inspire me, plus I’m always learning new things that will help my own business AND yours, but still…

 

I didn’t know what to do!

And that thought alone reminded me that I’d written something a couple of years ago about “What to do when you don’t know what to do.” THAT is what we’re diving into today because I KNOW I’m not alone in thinking that lol!

Its no surprise to anyone at all that we live in a VERY noisy, busy, cluttered and distracting world.

Aside from the obvious pandemic reasons, there are various wars going on and all that political BS distracting EVERYBODY! On top of that, we uprooted our lives from Sydney and moved just north of Brisbane in Queensland in 2022.

 

There’s been a LOT going on. Its no wonder that we can easily feel overwhelmed.

Theres been so much hurled at all of us that its easy to lose sight of the things that really matter – the whole reason you started your business in the first place.

So I want you to take a moment to think about that… why DID you start your business?

It might have been because you finally wanted to make money doing something you love and were already doing for free.

It might have been because you were fed up with being an employee and wanted to feel some sense of control over your own direction.

It might have been because you wanted to travel the world and have more freedom, so you figured out how to make money from your skills online.

 

Whatever your reason was, it matters. Especially when you hit a wall and feeling stuck about something.

I started my business for 2 reasons.

The first was that I couldn’t ignore the pull to be my own boss any longer.

I was beyond frustrated with being told what to do and when to do it.

There were micro managers and personality clashes. It felt like I was slowly dying inside as all the fun of being myself, my unique personality, was being suppressed for the sake of others.

The second reason was I just plain hated what I was doing by the end.

The final straw was the expectation that I would do whatever they asked for no extra money. I knew from experience that I’d burn myself out trying to meet those expectations, and I just wasn’t going there again.

It still ended up happening to a degree, but I took that as a sign from the Universe that that door was closed, locked, never to be opened again. I needed to put my focus on being my own boss and growing my business, which I’d started about 18 months before the job ended.

THAT is what motivates me to keep going. There’s no going back to that previous life. Of course that doesn’t mean I or anyone else always knows exactly what to do NEXT, but knowing what you DON’T want to do is just as important.

 

When you find yourself thinking “I don’t know what to do”, here’s what I’d suggest you do.

I’ve written a couple of points on this, all of which will seem kind of like the same thing said different ways. That’s intentional. Different personalities need to hear the same message in different ways.

 

Take a deep breath… and let it all go

Literally, lets take a deep breath… let it out.

Release the weight of the world, your obligations, your worries, ALL OF IT! Take a moment just to breathe!

I know you know how to breathe, you’ve been doing it since the moment you were born. But sometimes we forget because its one of those automatic things you don’t have to think about. When I say “just breathe” I’m asking you to consciously think about it.

Being still and focusing on taking a breath, then another one, and another is like hitting a reset button.

Sometimes that might be all you need to clear your thoughts.

Sometimes I need an entire day of not thinking about work stuff and simply trusting my intuition to guide my actions. Which may include lying on the bed reading a novel and falling asleep. It may be going for a swim, going to the beach, even going grocery shopping.

Thats what taking a deep breath and letting it all go can look like. What does it look like for you? What do you do when you step away from work, from trying to push through and force yourself to hit a deadline?

As I discovered recently in a chat with a friend who is trained in Human Design, not forcing myself when the energy is wrong is exactly in alignment with MY human design. For others, pushing through is exactly in alignment with THEIRS.

You don’t need to go down the rabbit hole of human design (unless you want to!), just take that moment to pause and breathe, the next right thing you’re meant to do will become clearer.

 

Put yourself first

This one is closely related but still a different perspective.

If you’re in crisis mode, if you’re burnt out, you CANNOT help anyone else and be any good at it. I know, that can hurt. Do whatever you need to reset your own balance. Its not just self care, this is SOUL CARE.

That could be as simple as allowing yourself to sleep. Go to bed early, rest your body, mind and soul.

Pump up the good vibes – Whether its music, comedy, singing, dancing, ANYTHING that makes you feel good, do that.

I have a go to playlist that always has me singing along and restoring my optimism and joy at the simplest things. It re-ignites my imagination and creativity, where I might have felt blocked before suddenly the words are flowing and I feel all hyper about sharing it with the world.

But that only happens when you’re prioritising your own soul care first. And as they say, self care is NOT selfish.

 

Listen to your heart

Yes, I’m totally channelling Roxette here, but they’re spot on!

When we hit pause for a moment it can feel really uncomfortable because we’re actually trusting OURSELVES instead of some external influence.

The thing is, you already know exactly what you need. But in most cases you’re dismissing it as silly, irrelevant, who the hell would want that? Who would want to hear that from ME?!

I can tell you from experience, if you let that whisper from your beautiful intuitive heart out into the light? Something magical happens.

It could be that you’ll fall flat on your face, but thats the furthest thing from failure. Its an experience you needed to have in order to grow in some way, or to see a different way forward.

AND… it could be that your words, your energy, your offer or whatever it is you choose to do could be the one thing that changes one person’s life. It might even SAVE a life.

 

Here’s some questions I would ask you if I was your business coach and you said “Dee, I don’t know what to do!”

I would ask you…

 

What’s your core purpose in your business?

Why do you do what you do? Go and journal on that, or think about it. Free write or free think, record a voice note and tell yourself what’s the core purpose in your business.

 

How do you help people?

What’s your expertise and what are the results people get from working with you?

 

Whats the easiest thing for you to sell that makes you money?

Go do that. Reach out to the people who have expressed an interest before and ask them if they’d like to do it now.

Make offers, do deals, find a way to make the money.

 

You also need to TAKE ACTION!

Once you’ve reset yourself theres no point in faffing about more, get on with it! You’ve got impact to create and money to make!

Whats that thing you’ve been thinking about but you haven’t done it yet?

Is there a conversation you need to have but you keep putting it off for “all the reasons”?

 

Whatever it is, make a commitment to yourself to do it in the next 24 hours.

That way you can stop thinking about it! Let go of the outcome. You can’t control the response of someone else, they may ghost you and thats on them. Thats not your job. Your job, your action, is to put something out there and see what happens.

MY job is to remind you that you can DM me for a quick chat about getting my help with your business and money stuff.

Whether you’re stuck on your niche and ideal clients, your offers, pricing or any other core element in your business, ask me the question and let’s see how I can help you.

It may be my full IGNITE business and money coaching program, which is a minimum 6 months. We’ll get EVERYTHING straightened out and firing on all cylinders during that time.

It may be a Business Alchemy Day, where you fire all your questions at me on Voxer and get everything answered so you can then take action and implement in your own time.

Or it could be a combination of the two with my new GSD in 30 days offer, Get Shizz Done in 30 days. Thats 30 days of coaching and support via Zoom and Voxer to get you out of the weeds and taking action.

 

Whatever it is, your job is to let me know you’re stuck with something, and my job is to see if I can help.

Send me a DM, I’m @funbusinessfunmoney, all one word, on Facebook and Instagram.

Connect with me on LinkedIn, I’m Deirdre Amies there.

Or email hello@deirdreamies.com if thats your preferred way to communicate.

 

You’ll find the links to all of those in the description and show notes of this and every episode.

Thats what I’ve got for you today! I love helping people figure out what to do next and make the money they need through their expertise.

Nobody expects you to have all the answers all the time. Even if you’ve got your big plans for the year all mapped out, its easy to feel stuck and not know what to do.

But you don’t have to STAY stuck! You don’t have to stay on the struggle bus. Theres a much smoother, more fun ride available anytime you want.

Take care, take a BREATH and reset yourself, and have fun taking action. I’ll catch you in the next episode.